Chow’s Guide on How to Talk Your Way Out of a Bar Fight


When one has put in too much miles on his heavy elliptical bike, a nice cold beer would sound wonderful to loosen tired muscles and chase away the stress of everyday life.

If you’re sitting on the bar, chances are, there are a lot of guys sitting there already. When drinks are flowing, people tend to get a bit hot-headed and physical. To stay away from intense situations and avoid a probable beating, read on to know a few tips.

Be Aware of Your Surroundings

Sense the mood of the crowd and look around. If there’s someone brooding at the end of the bar, someone angrily talking to another person a few tables away, or if there’s a person trying to start a fight with someone else, then that’s your queue to leave.

Feel the mood of the bar and leave before any violence starts.

Always Be Calm and Make Them See That You Don’t Want to Fight

If a person is trying to start something with you. Resist their violent energy and keep a calm head. If he’s trying you to make the first move, don’t. If he shoves you, don’t shove him back.

Don’t let things escalate and try to cool the situation down- your goal is to get home without a scratch not feed your pride and leave the bar with cuts, bruises, and a black eye.

Taking a deep breath and putting your hands in-front of you (your palms facing the instigator) makes it clear that you have no interest in taking the other person on.

Taking that deep breath will help calm you and putting your hands up indicates that you don’t want to fight – that is also a great stance to readily defend yourself if the other person doesn’t get that you don’t want any trouble.

Act Contrite and Appeal To Their Sense of Humanity

Yes. Even if it was their fault in the first place. Charm them into calming down by showing them that you’re a decent human being. Apologizing will be the icing on the cake.

Somehow, they feel that they were wronged by you – even if they were the ones who started it. They may throw an insult after you apologize but keep in mind that you do not want to be in a fight. Show them respect and act civilized by introducing yourself. This will catch them off guard and kill the mood.

Who knows, maybe you’ll even gain a friend in that unpleasant situation.

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